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Does something like sex drive have anything to do with how far you'll go to find a girl?

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zxcv

I mean, I'm on a couple ssris that I'm trying to get off of. So obviously, I'm trying to get off of them try to make things more normal. I'm also trying to working out more trying to lose weight and gain muscle and testosterone which will hopefully make me less shy.

I've also gotten a job where in tech support where I'm answering phone calls, and trying to help people. Hopefully in a way that'll help me be able to talk girls in real life. So far, nothing is working...

I've pretty much cut my meds in half in about 6 months and I'm still not noticing any real improvements.

 

Trazodone  150mg -> 0mg

Wellbutrin 300mg a day - > 150 mg a day -> Thinking about going down to 0 in a few more days. It's been a couple months since I got off the trazodone.

Fluoxitine 60mg  -> 60 mg

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zxcv

I know it's faster than normal. I'm not doing it as slowly, but I"m not being reckless with it either. I'm still giving it a couple months before I go down dose and after the withdrawal symptoms from the last withdrawal have gone away.

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NobodySpecial
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Hey man,

 

Why did you go on SSRI's in the first place? Is that something that's contributing to what's going on?

 

Something to consider as well - and this is from an interpersonal neurobiology perspective, if you're withdrawing and experiencing withdrawal symptoms, your nervous system is probably SHOT and it's pretty hard to connect with somebody when the part of you that mediates connection is in survival mode.

 

I'm sure there's a connection between confidence and testosterone, I mean even while I'm writing, I'm like - duh there is. BUT I think there's probably a lot more going on than a ****ed up endocrine system and I don't think testosterone is going to be a silver bullet.

 

Have you considered that being shy is okay, and most people are probably pretty shy when it comes to meeting new people. Even if you're well-versed, it's still like jumping into a cold pool, it takes a few jumps to properly warm up regardless of how long you've been doing it. 

 

When I was shy, I just put myself in situations that forced me to sit with the discomfort of socialising with new people until I became more comfortable with the discomfort, rather than waiting for something to take that away. 

 

If you can't be outgoing and connect in spite of your shyness, what makes you think that you'll be any better off if it was gone?

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zxcv

The original reason I started taking the meds was mostly for anxiety problems.

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NobodySpecial

I hear you there, I started taking Amitriptyline for a similar reason.

 

That's probably more something to explore right now :) Feel free to message if you want to chat about it!

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arwilliams

I think this question really depends on religion/evolutionary views.

 

if you think we evolved well I think the only possible answer is yes.  If you believe in destiny or religion maybe.  

 

Girls arent interested in sex in the same way guys are so I think you might be solely disappointed eventually.

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On ‎6‎/‎4‎/‎2018 at 2:04 PM, arwilliams said:

I think this question really depends on religion/evolutionary views.

 

if you think we evolved well I think the only possible answer is yes.  If you believe in destiny or religion maybe.  

 

Girls arent interested in sex in the same way guys are so I think you might be solely disappointed eventually.

This a good answer from arwilliams ,be very careful coming off these drugs .always be mindful of your actions ,the more the drugs release the stronger the feelings can come back.there can be an issue with impulse control also .be very careful.dont drink alcohol with these meds ,its very dangerous ,believe me .

Total kudos to you for improving your health ,diet,exersice ,mental well being is were all your future healing resides .take your time .youl get there .

Peace.

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