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Hi all! My husband has tourettes(poor guy) and is constantly in motion. He taps, snores, tics, sings disjointed melodies even while eating, clears his throat loudly and yawns  loudly constantly through the day. He snores to beat the band all night. I have always been on the irritable side, so this had always been bothersome. Guess  the good Lord has a sense of humor.  He can't help it, but it is driving me insane, especially if I am having the crazy anxiety like I have been. Any suggestions for coping? My anxiety kicks in bad whenever he comes in.

It also adds to the resentment from past issues in our marriage where he has been inconsiderate. We are in counseling too. Dealing with all this at once.  live in 350 SQ. Ft. No room to get away. 

Earplugs don't work, just avoiding him and acting snappy.

Thanks for any help.

 


This is the best of my recollection.

20 mg Prozac 3-4 days per week until May 2018.

Beginning May 15 I began to drop doses. 

I dropped 1 dose per week for the next 4 weeks.

It was not systematic at all. I don't have which days I took what.

so the week of May 13 I took 4 doses, which was pretty normal for me.

Then the week of May 20 I took 3 doses 20 mg.

The week of May 27 I took 3 doses 20 mg.

The 1st week in June l took 2 doses 20 mg.

The week of June 10, 2018 was my last dose 20 mg.

I had been on Prozac only. No other medications.

 

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powerback

The key is to Acknowledge its a ramp up of symptoms and its not personal to your husband .Do you have a tablet and maybe listen to programmes or music ,because distraction is the key in this situation ,I've had it and do have it very bad .I wear earplugs and ear defenders  and a lot of the time I wear small ear buds under my ear defenders because some one  talking on the phone can irritate me to bonkers levels .

It would be great if  we could be snappy but sadly it doesn't work like that ,the more your husband understands and learns about what your going through the better for your situation .

Its a nightmare that's for sure ,you will keep having to distract when its bad .

Peace.


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You are right, Power back. Being snappy isn't a plan. It produces guilt which then results in depression. So tired of this crazy cycle. I am going to try to distract myself with my tablet, etc. as you suggest.  I will hope he will continue to be patient. Thoughts so much control the way we feel!


This is the best of my recollection.

20 mg Prozac 3-4 days per week until May 2018.

Beginning May 15 I began to drop doses. 

I dropped 1 dose per week for the next 4 weeks.

It was not systematic at all. I don't have which days I took what.

so the week of May 13 I took 4 doses, which was pretty normal for me.

Then the week of May 20 I took 3 doses 20 mg.

The week of May 27 I took 3 doses 20 mg.

The 1st week in June l took 2 doses 20 mg.

The week of June 10, 2018 was my last dose 20 mg.

I had been on Prozac only. No other medications.

 

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Ryder

Even if you weren't on meds, i think if I had a dollar for everytime my Brother, Mother etc etc says something. That's just family wanting the best for you but saying probably the wrong way.


 Cymbalta, Zyprexa, Seroquil, Rispiridone, Valium, Zoloft, Clonazepam,. + 1 other Benzo. Total 11 yrs.

·           April 9th 2018 Hospital. 50mg Zoloft > 0 discontinued. 6mg Clonazepam > 2.5mg over 8 weeks stay.

           October 25th 2019: Hospital: Stopped Clonazepam 1mg > Bridged to 20mg Diazepam.

           

           Anafranil: 1st May 18': 150mg, 1st June: 150mg. 23rd June: 125mg. 6th July: 100mg. 12th July: 75mg 22 July: 62.5mg. 5th August 18: 50mg. 10th November 2018: 45mg. 25th August 2019: 40mg.  Sep '15: 37.5mg.              1st November 2019: 100mg (Re-instated during hospital). 25 morning / 75 night. 22/01/20: 95mg. 03/02: 90mg

                          

        Clonazepam: (k) 1st May 18: 2.5mg. 6th July 2018. 1.5mg K. 03 August 2018: 1.25mg K. 17th August > 10 November 2018: 1mg K. Jan - August 2019: (Dosing between 1mg and 0.87mg)  September 10 2019: 0.9mg. Discontinued 25th October 2019.

 

        Diazepam (V): 25th October 2019, 20mg. 22/12 19mg. 4/04/20: 18mg

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bottlehalffull

Living with a partner with tourett's is probably easier than a partner with bipolar! Sometimes I try to listen to the radio with them and it ends up throwing them into a rage.... or they're in a manic phase and staying up for days straight and their endless energy makes me feel even more exhausted and worthless. I try to ignore them when being around them is just grating, and then they get depressed and feel lonely and I feel guilty then get angry that they're making me feel guilty.


2018/7 Started on lamotrigine (12.5 mg) and escitalopram (2.5 mg). Tapered up over the course of a month to 50 mg LTG, 10 mg escit. Kept tapering LTG up to 75 mg by 2018/10. 2018/11 Crosstapered from escitalopram to sertraline. 2018/12 Was still taking both SSRIs (escit. 5 mg, sert. 25 mg) when sert. was discontinued to trial quetiapine. Quet. tapered up to 25 mg, but tapered back down after 3 days on the full dose because side effects. Total time on quetiapine 10 days. Switched back to cross tapering esit. and sert., started tapering LTG up to 100 mg.
 
2019/1 Lamotrigine 100 mg, sertraline 12.5 mg, escitalopram 5 mg. Finally discontinued escit. and on full dosage of sertraline (25 mg) 2019/04.
 
2019/11 About two weeks of sertraline 12.5 mg, but went back up to 25 mg.
2019/12/4 Lamotrigine taper: too fast, down to 25 mg over the course of about 10 days. Also started increase sertraline 37.5 mg during luteal phase of menstrual cycle for PMDD.
 
2020/(early) on 22 mg lamotrigine for a while, maybe a month and a half, maybe longer, then 2020/03 Institutionalized for self harm. I think I was trying to taper the sertraline at the time, don't remember the details. Doses increased: Sertraline 50 mg/lamotrigine 25 mg (current regimen). Supposed to be taking seroquel and abilify (TWO antipsychotics?!) but didn't take any once I was discharged from the institution. (Was on them a few days.)
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2001(?) Citalopram, don't remember dosage, cold turkey after a couple months and had terrible withdrawals, including what in retrospect was probably PAWS for the next five or so years. (agoraphobia, crippling social anxiety, anhedonia, dp/dr).

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8 hours ago, bottlehalffull said:

Living with a partner with tourett's is probably easier than a partner with bipolar!

 

There is no better or worse when it comes to living with a person who has a condition or health issue.  There is just different.

 

When you live alongside someone day in day out and things that they do/not do, say/not say annoy you it eventually wears down the tolerance of the other person.

 

I've been married to a man who had health issues for many years.  This was one of several stressful life issues which caused me to end up on an antidepressant.  I've also lived for a few months with a man with high functioning Aspergers.  Both situations had their frustrations and challenges.  The big difference for me was that I stayed with my husband because I felt that it was better for our children.  The boyfriend and I were planning on getting married.  Everything was lovely but then after he moved in with me he changed (which I have since found out is common with Aspergers).  Shortly afterwards his daughter was diagnosed with Aspergers and then I did my research and realised that my boyfriend also had Aspergers.  The decision I made was based on the fact that I had had one very difficult, love-starved marriage (emotional and physical), and even though I loved my boyfriend I was not willing to enter into another marriage where I was not being cared for like I needed.

 

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ADs:  25 years - 1 unknown, Prozac (caused muscle weakness), Zoloft/sertraline; citalopram (pooped out) CTed (very sick for 2.5 wks a few months after)

Pristiq:  50mg 2012, 100mg beg 2013 (mild Serotonin Toxicity)

Began tapering Oct 2015  Current from 17 Oct 2020:  Pristiq 0.56 mg (compounded + liquid)

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Here's what's worked for me: 

 

First, I turned my partners annoying habits into a game. For instance, he sneezes in these absolutely epic fits that drive me up the darn wall. So I started counting his sneezes, just to see how many he could get in one go. The little brain trick instantly entertained me rather than annoyed me, and now it's become such a habit that I congratulate him whenever he beats his own record. 

 

Second, my epic audio setup guaranteed to block out almost anything (seriously, this got me AD withdrawal and dozens of plane rides next to crying babies). Use everything together: 

-Mack's Silicone Ear Plugs

-Bose Quiet Comfort 35 Headphones (no they're not cheap, but they're worth your sanity)

-White Noise App, specifically set to Brown Noise. (I've experimented with all the tracks on this app and find that Brown Noise is the best at neutralizing variable and high pitched sounds like machinery and babies.)

 


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I am the founder Happiness Is A Skill, a weekly newsletter dedicated to helping people heal from depression by learning the skill of happiness. Join hundreds of others and subscribe here: http://learnhappy.brookesiem.com/

 

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12 hours ago, Brooke said:

Here's what's worked for me: 

 

First, I turned my partners annoying habits into a game. For instance, he sneezes in these absolutely epic fits that drive me up the darn wall. So I started counting his sneezes, just to see how many he could get in one go. The little brain trick instantly entertained me rather than annoyed me, and now it's become such a habit that I congratulate him whenever he beats his own record. 

 

Second, my epic audio setup guaranteed to block out almost anything (seriously, this got me AD withdrawal and dozens of plane rides next to crying babies). Use everything together: 

-Mack's Silicone Ear Plugs

-Bose Quiet Comfort 35 Headphones (no they're not cheap, but they're worth your sanity)

-White Noise App, specifically set to Brown Noise. (I've experimented with all the tracks on this app and find that Brown Noise is the best at neutralizing variable and high pitched sounds like machinery and babies.)

 

Love your attitude. Cracked me up 😅

Guess what all I'm going to order online?!😉👍

Thanks for the help!👏


This is the best of my recollection.

20 mg Prozac 3-4 days per week until May 2018.

Beginning May 15 I began to drop doses. 

I dropped 1 dose per week for the next 4 weeks.

It was not systematic at all. I don't have which days I took what.

so the week of May 13 I took 4 doses, which was pretty normal for me.

Then the week of May 20 I took 3 doses 20 mg.

The week of May 27 I took 3 doses 20 mg.

The 1st week in June l took 2 doses 20 mg.

The week of June 10, 2018 was my last dose 20 mg.

I had been on Prozac only. No other medications.

 

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