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Suffering Bereavement during WD - how did you cope?

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sunnysideup69

Hello everyone,

My brother is in the end stages of brain cancer, so he has not died yet. Although we haven't really been a part of each other's lives for quite some years, it is still a big shock and has heightened WD symptoms for me over the last week. (I had just stabilised after many months of wobbling.)

 

I'd love to know how you coped and to possibly share resources here.

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Junglechicken

I'm so sorry Sunnysideup69, there is no easy way to navigate through a close relative's palliative stage of life.  And especially when experiencing WD.

 

My father died 2 years ago (Parkinsons), and my grieving started 2 years beforehand.  He couldn't communicate anymore, and was unrecognisable.  It was extremely shocking to see his deterioration, and we had just returned from living overseas for several years.

 

TBH, I don't remember the WD part of those days, only rushing to the hospital after finding out my father had been admitted (again), and dreading phone calls from his care home.  In fact, today is the 2nd anniversary of his funeral.

 

Other than self-care and being VERY kind to yourself throughout this ordeal (and it is an ordeal), if you have close friends and relatives who are there for you, SO MUCH the better.

 

Sending you HUGE hugs xxx

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sunnysideup69

Thanks so much @Junglechicken, am really struggling right now with huge anxiety. And grief. I've been grieving my brother since last August, when the tumour was discovered. Thanks for understanding. Am just struggling with big uptick in anxiety at the moment. Sometimes I don't feel capable of much more except breathing.

 

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7 minutes ago, sunnysideup69 said:

Thanks so much @Junglechicken, am really struggling right now with huge anxiety. And grief. I've been grieving my brother since last August, when the tumour was discovered. Thanks for understanding. Am just struggling with big uptick in anxiety at the moment. Sometimes I don't feel capable of much more except breathing.

 

 

I know, its just the hardest experience ever you'll go through.

 

After each hospital visit, I just exploded into tears (shock and denial at what was happening to my father).  I suffered from a heavy chest all the time (grief).

 

Just allow yourself to feel the way you do and BE at that moment.  

 

I'm still grieving, and will do so for the rest of my life.

 

Taking care of yourself is paramount, as the grieving process brings with it, it's own set of physical symptoms. 

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