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Has anyone who was put on these early in life said anything absolutely horrible to parents or loved ones while going through withdrawal rage , like unforgivably terrible things out of resentment and fury....i have, its totally ruined my relationship with my parents, not sure i can mend it , so much resentment for putting me on these while my brain wasnt developed yet

Was put on SSRIS at age 18, came off at 20 due to side effects, have been in withdrawal ever since, am 27 now. 7 years of protracted withdrawal. have not been able to work. I didnt taper, i basically came off cold turkey in less than a month....no one informed me of anything, including protracted withdrawal . my symptoms include absolutely everything you can imagine, you name it, i have it 



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Yes.    I feel better now, but lots of relationships are over.    However, I think it is for the best.  

May 2018:  1 dropper liquid marajuana

june 2018. Trazadone ambien 10 mg

july 2018 seroquel 37 mg ambien 2.5mg lex 5

October 2018 taper seroquel added hydroxizine 25 mg

nov ambien taper lex taper 

dec 2018 off of lex off of phenibut


October 2018- added a lot of supplements.  night: 3mg melatonin Passion flower tincture valerian tincture lavender magnesium glycinate liquid gaba herbal blend Theanine 450 mg tryptophan 1.5 grams 

May 2019. Down to the following at night 

4-6 mg hydroxizine. 250 mg tryptophan (1/2 pill)

.75 mg melatonin pill .75 herbal blend pill magnesium citrate 


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I was put on at a young age, and my mother and I have had a lot of tough conversations since I got off the drugs. 


My advice: First, take responsibility for your role in this. You may have a lot of resentment, and that's understandable, but you're in charge of how you move forward. Obviously we don't know your life or your experience, but you have three choices: work to repair the relationship, do nothing, or consciously sever the relationship. Getting off the drugs is only the first step. Reconciling all the choices made by you and for you is the next step. In my opinion, that's harder work than withdrawal. 


Second, put yourself in your parent's shoes. No matter what your view on the situation was, I guarantee theirs was different. There was a reason why they put you on these drugs. It may not make sense to you. It may have been the wrong decision. It may not have been made out of ignorance or neglect, but out of pity or shame or pressure. Maybe they were hurting and didn't know what else to do. Maybe they thought they were helping. But there was a reason, and not only do you need to find out what that was, you need to understand that they made that choice viewed through the lens of their experience. Your parents are fully formed humans who existed long before you. They have worldviews and traumas of their own. Go learn about their life. It will help you form compassion for why they do what they do.  


I know that this is probably the last thing you want to do. But if you want to heal the relationships, you have to deal with this **** and accept your role. There is no way around it and no scenario in which you do not bear some responsibility. Is it hard? Yes. Is it unfair? Yes. Is it complicated? Yes. But nothing worth doing is ever easy, fair, or uncomplicated. 

It's up to you. 

Effexor XR 37.5mg and Wellbutrin XL 150mg from age 15-30 (2001-2016). Hell withdrawal. Drug free (and happy) since 2016.


I am the founder Happiness Is A Skill, a weekly newsletter dedicated to helping people heal from depression by learning the skill of happiness. Join hundreds of others and subscribe here: http://learnhappy.brookesiem.com/


I wrote this for the The Washington Post: I spent half my life on antidepressants. Today, I'm off the medication and I feel all right.

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