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PatriciaM

My family doesn't want to know period. My son asked me a few years back not to take my meds in front of his friends because he was ashamed. My parents don't want to hear about my medication nor my illness. As for my partner, he says this is all in my head and that I could stop taking Effexor right away if I really wanted to. So instead of arguing, I deal with it in silence. None of them needs to know and even though sometimes it's hard not to be supported by my loved ones, I won't let them bring me down either. For me, each bead of Effexor I don't swallow is a small victory and that's what matters for now.

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Gridley

We are here for you.  Every bead you don't swallow is a small victory: yes!

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Shep

If printing articles off of the withdrawal websites isn't working, there's been some really great information on mainstream and academic media recently that may be helpful to pass along to friends and family as more "credible" sources of information.

 

Psychiatric Times: Online Communities for Drug Withdrawal: What Can We Learn?

 

New York Times: Many People Taking Antidepressants Discover They Cannot Quit

 

Hoping for more of this same type of coverage, especially in journals such as Psychiatric Times, which is read by many mainstream psychiatrists in the US every month. 

 

They can't say they don't know and they've never heard of this. Getting a doctor to acknowledge withdrawal may go a long way in getting more understanding and support from friends and family. 

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Miko789

My family knows  about the meds but my father isnt supportive, my brother knows  that I took in the past a/d and now a/p , I have told him about some withdrawal that the meds are causing but he doesn't want to believe, he says its all in your head, I told him to look on the net withdrawal coming off a/d and a/p,

Ill just copy paste some comments/posts from members  and send to his email.

My closest friend is supporting me but he lives on an island.

He brother  keeps saying don't spend your money in acupuncture, its a  waste of money. he thinks that classical medicine is the only way to go, I guess hes misinformed from media/doctors. puff

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Altostrata

Posted in the Introductions forum, wisdom from our Rosetta:

 

23 hours ago, Rosetta said:

People here haven't given up on you.  Very few people have any idea what to say to someone suffering as you are.  They don't realize that just a short message that says "I care." can be enough, and the more people it comes from the better.  (Thanks, Powerback!)

 

Try to not push your parents away.   They are in as much pain as you, I promise you.  Just say to them. "Thank you for trying to help me.  Thank you being here and for not giving up on me."  Keep thanking them for every little thing -- a plate of food, a check in, a concerned look.  They need to hear that.  This is how I deal with my husband to keep him from getting too discouraged.  

 

They may take that as an opening to start to talk about the drugs, but simply say "I know you love me.  Thank God for that.  I love you, too."  Don't argue with them; don't yell; don't throw things whatever you do.  Simply tell them, "After I took that pill you have no idea how it made me feel.  It made me feel MORE desperate, and I didn't think that was possible.  If sertraline causes that result, what would you have me do?  It feels like I'm taking a drug that makes me feel more despair."  (I had the same problem when my doctor gave me Xanax.  It made things worse.)

 

I was in just as much pain as you at one time.  I really was.  I got through it, and I'm so glad I did.  What you must remember is that you will get well, and any symptom could ease suddenly just like the PSSD did.  That was sudden, and relief from other symptoms may possibly be sudden, too.  You must hold on and wait for that to happen.

 

Now, I need to take a step back and care for myself.  I'll be back when I can.  Re-read the messages above when you need to.  

 

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