☼ Junglechicken

[Frogie]

19 minutes ago, Junglechicken said:

Feel incredibly scared, and can't process it all.

 

To make matters worse, my mother and I had a terrible row last night, she is devoid of empathy.

Andy is right.

 

You need to think about yourself and healing.

 

Hug Sealy and he will make you feel safe.

 

Take care,

Frogie xx

[Junglechicken]

9 hours ago, Longestroadhome said:

Oh my heart goes out to you. This kind of stress is quite unbearable, especially during withdrawal. My own father has just had major heart surgery and my nerves have been on edge all week. Every time the phone went I thought my heart would jump out my chest. My prayers and support go out to you 🙏🙏

 

Thank you Longesroadhome - I really need prayers and support right now, it is unbearable.  

 

I'm praying for you and your father too.

 

JC xx

 

 

[Junglechicken]

10 hours ago, Frogie said:

Andy is right.

 

You need to think about yourself and healing.

 

Hug Sealy and he will make you feel safe.

 

Take care,

Frogie xx

 

Thank you Frogie,

 

I'm hugging Sealy A LOT, and thankfully have a therapy session today.

 

Can't stop crying.

 

TC,

JC xxx

[Frogie]

4 hours ago, Junglechicken said:

 

Thank you Frogie,

 

I'm hugging Sealy A LOT, and thankfully have a therapy session today.

 

Can't stop crying.

 

TC,

JC xxx

I'm glad you have therapy. That will help.

 

Just remember everyone here is thinking of you.

 

Take care,

Frogie xx

[Junglechicken]

Petrified all day.....my phone just rang and it was a painter/decorator arranging to collect keys to do a quote for our new place.

 

Impossible to relax.

 

 

[Junglechicken]

My father died at 5pm.

 

We are going down to be with my mother and help with arrangements.

 

He died peacefully.

[apace41]

4 minutes ago, Junglechicken said:

My father died at 5pm.

 

We are going down to be with my mother and help with arrangements.

 

He died peacefully.

 

I'm sorry for your loss, JC, but given where things were it is a blessing that he went quickly.

 

Try to be good to yourself over the next several days. 

 

Thoughts are with you.

 

Best,

 

Andy

[wantrelief]

I am very sorry for your loss, JC. We will all be thinking of you during this time.

[Flowers]

Dear JC - such sad news. I hope it will be of some comfort that your Dad is now at peace - no more suffering.

 

I hope things are not too difficult with your mother.  Try to take some time out for yourself to give you space to grieve and get some  peace.

 

Hugs 

 

Flowers xxx

 

 

[joy2730]

Losing a parent always raises many surprising and some difficult emotions, you will feel very much 'at sea' for quite a while, and maybe a sense of relief as well.  On a death all family relationships suddenly change.

 

All I can suggest is try not to make any big decisions too quickly as your thinking may not be clear at present.

 

Take strength in the natural order of death, it is the correct way round, your father has died before you.  When a child dies first a great deal of pain is automatically created.

 

This is a reminder to you that life is not without its limits and that quality of life is important.  Life, even a long life, is incredibly short and over in the blink of an eye.  Time passes very quickly and time ultimately sweeps us all aside and we are then but memories.  Sadly, there will be a time when no one will remember we ever lived, and at that point we truly die.

 

I still have a weak faith but I know most do not these days, so I would not ask anyone to find comfort in prayer, but even if you are a total non believer, it is still an option.

 

I hope things are not too bad with your mother, fractured families tend to show their worst side at times like this.

 

Take care JC

 

Joy

[Scorpio]

Hi jc

im so so sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you and I’m thinking of you my friend. 

 

I hope your your brother is on his way to take the burden of responsibility off your shoulders to allow you time to grieve. 

 

It is so hard when when we lose a parent no matter what our relationship with them. Keep your mother at arms length until he arrives. Take comfort in your husband who is there by your side, as always, to get you through this sad and awful time. 

 

[Littlegrandma]

I’m sorry JC

[Junglechicken]

Thank you all for your kindness, I've been crying all day and was dreading that call.

 

We are travelling down tonight to help with arrangements.

 

I feel very odd.

[Frogie]

1 hour ago, Junglechicken said:

My father died at 5pm.

 

We are going down to be with my mother and help with arrangements.

 

He died peacefully.

I'm so sorry JC:

 

Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

Take care,

Frogie xx

[brassmonkey]

I'm so sorry for your loss JC.

 

(((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))

 

Brass

[Kristine]

Dear JC,  My deepest condolences to you.  Let the tears flow...Love K xox

[Junglechicken]

That chasm in the earth has swallowed me up.

 

There are no words to describe the loss of my beloved father to such an incredibly cruel, and long-drawn out illness.

 

My father was so brave and NEVER complained of his suffering, not even towards the end.  I told him as he was dying on Sunday how much I admired him for enduring this terrible disease for so long and with such dignity.

 

The light of my life has been extinguished.

 

I went on a walk on my own this afternoon, hoping for signs of him and talked to him non-stop during my walk.  I am certain he told me that he wasn't ready to leave the body (his spirit) he had known for 84yrs.

 

As he was dying I asked him to keep talking/communicating with us.  

[Junglechicken]

16 minutes ago, Kristine said:

Dear JC,  My deepest condolences to you.  Let the tears flow...Love K xox

 

Thank you Kristine.

 

I have been grieving for 2 yrs now -  when the illness really took hold.

 

He was an angel on earth.....EVERYONE he met or knew adored him.  The people at the care home adored him after only a month of him being there.

 

He was one of these rare people who was adored by everyone who met him.

 

Love, JC xxx

[Kristine]

Oh JC,  He sounds like he would have been the most wonderful father.  Your heart must be breaking.  I read once (can't remember where)....that "grief is the love we feel inside for the person we have lost,  but that love now has nowhere to go" ...

On 05/02/2018 at 9:04 AM, Junglechicken said:

I talked to him non-stop for a couple of hours, but he was unresponsive (not reacting to anything I said).  

 

This would have had such a positive impact on your Dad JC.  He may not have been responsive but there is no doubt in my mind that he would have heard and felt all your words.  Bless you JC, he must have been very proud of you. Much Love. K xo

[RachelSusan]

JC, I am so sorry. Your grief has got to be overwhelming. You mentioned feeling odd. It is a very unsettling and an odd feeling to loose a parent. For me it was almost as if I lost that connection with home. I felt like a boat adrift with no anchor. Sending you my warm thoughts. 

Xoxo

RS

[Scorpio]

Hi jc

im thinking of you. Keep talking to your dad, let your grief out, cry whenever you feel the need. It is such a hard thing to go through when you lose a parent. 

 

It will take time to come to terms with this but the more you can let your grief out the more you will come to terms with this. It is a hard road you are travelling but you can always offload your feelings on here if it helps. We will all be supporting you. 

[Flowers]

Dear JC

 

I am sure your father knew how much you loved him and being able to speak to him in his last hours must have been very sad but very special. I am certain he would have heard you and is still watching over you somewhere.  

 

The coming days will not be easy but as time goes on you will hopefully be able to remember your adorable dad when he was in good health and the pain of the past couple of years will heal.

 

I am thinking of you and as Scorpio says we are all here for you if you need us.

 

Love and hugs my friend.

 

Flowers xxx

 

 

[Rosetta]

I am so very sorry for your loss, Junglechicken.

[direstraits]

just wanted to offer my condolences to you at this difficult time,

 

take good care of yourself

 

ds

[Frogie]

JC:

 

Just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts.

 

Take care,

Frogie xx

[nz11]

Sorry to read of your loss JC.

Wishing you comfort and strength.

[Junglechicken]

On 6 February 2018 at 11:55 PM, Kristine said:

Oh JC,  He sounds like he would have been the most wonderful father.  Your heart must be breaking.  I read once (can't remember where)....that "grief is the love we feel inside for the person we have lost,  but that love now has nowhere to go" ...

This would have had such a positive impact on your Dad JC.  He may not have been responsive but there is no doubt in my mind that he would have heard and felt all your words.  Bless you JC, he must have been very proud of you. Much Love. K xo

 

Thank you Kristine,

 

Much love,

JC xxx

[Junglechicken]

14 hours ago, Flowers said:

Dear JC

 

I am sure your father knew how much you loved him and being able to speak to him in his last hours must have been very sad but very special. I am certain he would have heard you and is still watching over you somewhere.  

 

The coming days will not be easy but as time goes on you will hopefully be able to remember your adorable dad when he was in good health and the pain of the past couple of years will heal.

 

I am thinking of you and as Scorpio says we are all here for you if you need us.

 

Love and hugs my friend.

 

Flowers xxx

 

 

 

Thank you Flowers,

 

I so hope he is watching over me, I long to hear his voice and laugh again.

 

Much love,

JC xxx

[Junglechicken]

3 hours ago, nz11 said:

Sorry to read of your loss JC.

Wishing you comfort and strength.

 

Thank you nz11, I really appreciate your support.

 

 

[Junglechicken]

4 hours ago, Frogie said:

JC:

 

Just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts.

 

Take care,

Frogie xx

 

Thank you Frogie,

 

Its a very surreal time in my life, and we have been flat out with funeral arrangements etc.,

 

Havent come up for air.

 

TC,

JC xx

[Junglechicken]

8 hours ago, direstraits said:

just wanted to offer my condolences to you at this difficult time,

 

take good care of yourself

 

ds

 

Thank you so much ds, I keep thinking I will see him again.

 

I long to see his angelic face.

 

JC

[Junglechicken]

8 hours ago, Rosetta said:

I am so very sorry for your loss, Junglechicken.

 

Thank you Rosetta, my heart is completely broken.

[Junglechicken]

14 hours ago, Scorpio said:

Hi jc

im thinking of you. Keep talking to your dad, let your grief out, cry whenever you feel the need. It is such a hard thing to go through when you lose a parent. 

 

It will take time to come to terms with this but the more you can let your grief out the more you will come to terms with this. It is a hard road you are travelling but you can always offload your feelings on here if it helps. We will all be supporting you. 

 

Thank you Scorpio,

 

Do you think he is with me?  Do you think I will hear him talk to me?  Will he guide me through the rest of my life?

 

I long for him to make his presence known, it's so lonely without him.

[Junglechicken]

On 5 February 2018 at 5:33 PM, wantrelief said:

I am very sorry for your loss, JC. We will all be thinking of you during this time.

 

Thank you wr, I need your thoughts.

[Junglechicken]

23 hours ago, RachelSusan said:

JC, I am so sorry. Your grief has got to be overwhelming. You mentioned feeling odd. It is a very unsettling and an odd feeling to loose a parent. For me it was almost as if I lost that connection with home. I felt like a boat adrift with no anchor. Sending you my warm thoughts. 

Xoxo

RS

 

Thank you RS, I really appreciate that, as there is no guide on how to cope with a loss like this.

 

Xxxx

 

JC

[Junglechicken]

On 5 February 2018 at 8:01 PM, brassmonkey said:

I'm so sorry for your loss JC.

 

(((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))

 

Brass

 

Thank you Brass

 

JC